A bit of fluff set in the same verse as this, though not really related at all.
Summary: The dorm fire alarm goes off in the middle of a cold night. Enjolras forgets his jacket.
Pairings: Combeferre/Enjolras, Courfeyrac/Jehan
Does anyone want to back me up on “it’s not okay to threaten statutory rape charges on your child’s significant other just because you don’t like the choices they’re making regarding their educational future”?
Alright, time for a potentially unpopular opinion rant, guys, because this goes on this list of ‘things that enrage me’.
Lemme say again before I start- potentially unpopular opinions, but they ARE my opinions as a 25 year old adult. Got it? Alright.
- Statutory rape is not rape
- Statutory rape is not rape
- you cannot call fucking rape on a situation just because you are pissy that your child is having sex for the love of God what the fuck is wrong with society that this is still a thing
It is literally mind blowing to me that such a charge even exists. It’s incredibly stupid, and frankly, I find it incredibly offensive because there are a shit ton of actual rape victims out there that deserve protection and legal help and don’t get it, and meanwhile, there’s people pressing charges because teenagers are having sex. It’s ludicrous, and it’s inappropriate use of the word ‘rape’.
Rape is sex without consent. period. this covers a large variety of acts, violent rape, getting someone drunk to the point where they’re past consent, intimidating someone into sex, etc. All of these are fucking awful, and all of them are rape. If you as a 20 year old intimidate a 16 year old into have sex with you, that is rape. If you as 20 year old have sex with a 16 year old you’re in a relationship with and there is mutual desire for that sex, that is sex. THERE IS SO MUCH DIFFERENCE IN THOSE TWO THINGS, I CANNOT EVEN…
But see, this ties into another topic that enrages me-
Teenagers are not children. Do I need to restate that one several times, too? Teenagers. Are. Not. Children. I mean, I could go into the whole thing about how in terms of history adolescence/considering people over 12 still a child is a recent convention, but I’m not even going to bother, because it’s fucking common sense. You stop being a child at 12-13, and you transition into being a teenager. You are not yet an adult, but you are PLENTY fucking old enough to know your own mind. You know what you’re doing. I swear to God, I feel like people who defend laws like this have entirely blacked out their teenage years.
Did I always make wise decisions? Hell no, but I always knew what I was doing, and I made my own choices. I made them. It’s not like we’re talking about fucking five year olds, here.
I’m 25 now. Do I always make wise decisions? Hell no, but I’m still the one making them. I am in control of my mind and have been for a long time now. To insinuate that any human being with a developed brain is out of control of their choices(unless they are under the influence of altering substances) is absurd.
Rape laws, properly followed and prosecuted(I know they’re not, but that’s a whole other can of worms, and one that of course also bothers me, because rape is fucking awful), would cover circumstances of rape of a younger person by an older one. All statutory rape laws do is give controlling parents a way to get the person their son or daughter is seeing thrown in jail. I have seen it happen, and it is awful and damaging. This shit needs to stop.
If you don’t like your kid’s boyfriend or girlfriend, hey guess what, talk to them, present your arguments like a reasonable fucking human being. If you’re worried about them having safe sex, talk to them about it. If it’s just the fact that they’re having sex that pisses you off so much, sorry, it’s not your body and it’s not up to you. They are not a doll that you can control throughout their entire life.
Your kid is gonna make good choices, and they’re gonna make bad ones. Just like you. The best thing you can do is not fucking drive them away by being a raging asshole who treats them like they’re a possession or a toddler, but making sure you are always a safe person to talk to about EVERY decision.
I see stuff like this, and it just cements my desire to have kids someday, because I want to set a different example, I want to take the good things my parents have done and leave the bad and try to be THAT kind of parent, the kind whose kids know I am safe if they tell me they’re drunk and need me to come get them and I am safe if they tell me they’re fucking a 23 year old, I am safe because I fucking love them and I respect them and I will have their back no matter what.
I just can’t with shit like this. Sometimes I hate people.
(and ok, this got super ramble-y, but basically, Toni, Elizabeth, I am so sorry you guys are having to deal with this, and I really hope everything works out ok with your dad, Toni. x.x )
okay I AM DOING THIS THING, on MAY 1 because that gives me a day to get my shit together, I am STAGING A MASSIVE SHIPPING REVOLUTION
and I encourage everyone to join me.
#ERE SHIPPING FESTIVAL
in protest of the e/e and e/r ship war in this fandom. contribute by…
my life and
YOU HIT HOW I FEEL SPOT ON!!!!!